Wife swapping or couple sharing is not one of those things that are popular in most parts of the world, but it still happens among a number of tribes. For some, it solves the problem of cheating among couples since it allows you to have multiple sex “partners” while for others it promotes friendship and shows hospitality.
As against some cases such as in Kerala where a woman was raped repeatedly and men swap their wives even without their consent, there are cultures that accept and practice it in different parts of the world.
In this article, we are looking at some of the popular and not so popular cultures and tribes all over the world that allow for wives to be swapped legally.
Tribes involved in Wife Swapping or Wife Lending
1. Aryans of the Himalayans
These people who are also known as the Drokpa people are among the most popular tribe that are involved in wife lending. They are found along the Indus River in northern India with a population of only 3000. The idea is that they are descendants of Alexander the Great’s soldiers.
Among the many unique things about this tribe is that they do not follow the norms of the normal society. They are encouraged to show public affection for each other.
The idea of wife-swapping is something that was also a part of them for a long time before it was later stopped by authoritative figures who claimed the behavior was not civilized.
2. Ovahimba and Ovazimba
These Namibian tribes, like others on this list, have also defied the influence of the outside world as the semi-nomadic people maintain relationships that are completely strange to what has come to be considered as normal.
With a population of more than 50,000 the Himba tribe is unique for the redness of their skin which is a result of red clay they rub. Young girls are offered in marriage once they reach puberty by their fathers to male partners selected by their parents.
The people have a practice which is known as Okujepisa Omukazendu; a man gives his wife to a guest for a night as a sign of welcoming him. The man will then either sleep in another room or outside. In the same way, when the friends of the woman visit, she can also give them to her husband.
While the woman may refuse to sleep with a guest, she will have to sleep in the same room with him as decided by her husband. The idea behind this is to promote relationships and reduce jealousy.
3. Wife sharing among the Eskimos
It gets more interesting with the Eskimos, although if you are bored of having sex with only your wife, that may not be the place to head as it is stopped.
With the Eskimos, they share everything including their women. Once a man considers you a brother, which is another word for a friend among them, they can allow you have a go with their wives. However, polygamy is reserved for the wealthy- but who needs it anyway?
When a man is away on hunting or another thing, there is nothing wrong with a brother coming around to have sex with his wife to help her from being lonely. Because of this, there is no stigma even when your wife becomes pregnant with another man’s child; children are also communally raised.
It is not only married people that always get to have a go as premarital sex is something encouraged among the people.
4. The Wodaabe tribe
Among this tribe, it is not the men who decide to share their wives, but instead, it is the women who share themselves to other men as they wield sexual power.
As a girl growing up among the Woodaabe tribe, you can have as many sexual partners as you want and you can have sex with anyone and at any time you want. When married, this Tribe that is found in the Sahel still allows a woman to have more than a sex partner.
There is a festival known as Gerewol, a festival of music and dance in which a woman can allow herself to be stolen by another man even when she is already married. During this festival that lasts for seven days and seven nights, men get involved in the Yaake, a battle for sexual prowess among men.
Although polygamy is allowed and wives can be stolen, it sometimes leads to battle and loss of lives.
5. The Chewa tribe
Found in Malawi, this tribe has many cultures that are shocking including a culture of preparing a meal with water from a corpse during burial.
To wife sharing, this is a tradition that is not very known to the outside world as it has been kept hidden by the tribe. It was until recently when the practice known as Cidyerano was banned by Paramount Chief Kalonga Gawa Undi that many got to know about it.
Before it was banned, you could share your wife with anyone you want, just as you could share your food or any other thing. It is mostly done over the weekend with the permission of those involved.
Friends can decide to share their wives in order to show friendship and love for each other with no strings attached. Another reason for this is that it prevents promiscuity.
When a woman gets pregnant, she can decide to share her husband with another woman until she gives birth and the baby is three months old. At that time, she can satisfy her husband so she may decide to stop sharing her husband.
Also, if a couple does not have children, the man may hire a man to impregnate his wife. Others practice it as a way of raising money or for financial benefits.
Although it has been banned, the practice is still popular among the people.